My name is Pat. I am a 64-year-old retired business education instructor. And I am a single grandparent. I have 7 beautiful, smart grandchildren (actually they're the smartest and most beautiful grandchildren in the world--aren't YOURS?).
I'm sure there are other grandparents out there who thought they would still be a couple when grandkids came and, for one reason or another, they are alone. My husband and I had planned for grandparenthood and retirement all our lives. We couldn't wait! However, when my husband was 57, he was diagnosed with dementia. He lasted for 5 years and passed away a few months short of his 62nd birthday. He did get to know the two older grandchildren (Anna, now 16; Landon, now 13; Ryan, now 10; Luke and Kieran,now 9; Elizabeth, now 7) but not for very long. His debilitating disease took his mind earlier than it took his body so he only really got to "know" the three oldest ones. And our youngest, who will be 2 later this month, was born 9 months and one day after my husband, Russell, passed away. He's missed so much!!!
But wait--please don't leave! These posts are NOT going to be depressing. I am going to concentrate on the MANY positive, uplifting, and inspiring parts of my life--and they are many. I've been so fortunate and have so much to be thankful for and that's what I want to share--that and the humor.
I think I have a lot to share about not only being a single grandparent but also about how to take care of a loved one and keep him home until the end. I also take care of my oldest grandchild, Anna, who has severe cerebral palsy. I will talk about all of this in my upcoming blogs.
I would like to invite anyone to read and respond to anything in my blog that strikes a cord. I am also looking forward to exploring other similar sites and sharing similar stories.
Pat
Hey Grammy!
ReplyDeleteYour blog is very cool! I love what you wrote and the picture is precious! I dont remember having ever seen it. Nice job!
Lana
Thanks so much, Lana. It is very comforting to me to do this. The next 7 blogs will be about each grandchild, his or her special gift(s), and their relationships (if any) with Russell. Hope you'll keep looking. Lol, Pat
ReplyDeleteTerrific idea, Pat - I will be reading every single word!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Nona. I'm really enjoying writing about my family.
ReplyDeletePat: Bob Pierce and I still work together and not infrequently we remember Russell in our conversations--always in the most positive terms. One of the joys of working at WES was having Russell as a co-worker. As would be expected, you were very accurate in your descriptions of him. I have to admit that I got a little misty eyed reading of you, Russell, and your grandkids. One thing I'd like to say is that although he may be missing interacting with you and the grandkids physically, I am certain Russell is present in spirit, looking down with joy from a much better place. I appreciate the opportunity to read your words. I will remember you and your entire family in my prayers. Keep up the good work! --Charlie Newling
ReplyDeleteThanks so much, Charlie. I think you are right about his being present. We all feel it. Great to hear from you. Please give Bob my best. - Pat
ReplyDeleteAunt Pat, My dad told me about your blog last week, and I'm just now getting to look at it. I love it! It's touching me, and I'm happy that you are sharing your story. I love you..Hilary:)
ReplyDeleteHilary, thanks so much, Sweetie. I am really enjoying writing about my family. It gives me peace and I appreciate your sweet comments! Lol, Aunt Pat
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